Wedding Porn…Are you addicted? – From Ask Dr. Bride!

by Diana Miller | Jun 4, 2010 | Uncategorized

Wedding Porn…Are you addicted? Ask Dr. Bride!

Wedding-Porn addiction is a normal wedding planning drive that has become obsessive, to the point that behavior is out of control. Just like with any addiction, it is a euphoric feeling (or “high”) that comes from chemicals released into the brain, as the mind becomes accustomed to the release of these chemicals, it searches out for continued sources of that high.

Wedding porn is all around us bridal magazines, blogs, and internet sites, wedding reality TV shows; in society today Wedding Porn addiction is viewed as normal, the addicts behavior seems to be perfectly acceptable and boosted about…“What’s wrong with it, I am a bride; I am supposed to act this way!”

One trip to the bridal shop does not satisfy the addict, she has to go to every bridal shop within a 60 mile radius; plagued by the images from the magazines planning the perfect wedding consumes her, she is hard-core addicted to wedding porn, so addicted that she feels a deep sense of disappointment with her own appearance, she longs to look like the brides in the magazines and she becomes unhappy with herself. Suddenly everything she has been reading causes her to fight feelings of inadequacy “why can’t I look like the brides in the magazines, why can’t I have the wedding of my dreams, why can’t my fiancée be more involved with planning the wedding?”

Wedding Porn can make or break a newly engaged couple, the bride’s wedding Porn use has a negative effect on her relationship; the content she reads in the magazines, internet sites and blogs makes her anxious, especially when reading all the do’s and don’ts, all the must haves and must not’s; it also causes doubt, she gets caught up in all the advice that she begins to question her fiancée’s commitment to the role he plays in planning the wedding. Wedding Porn isolates a bride, making her more intent on satisfying her selfish needs even at the expense of her relationship with her fiancé, friends and family, financial stability, and career.

Other harmful effects of Wedding Porn also includes…
1. Compulsive buys, for example: 300 sets of “The Perfect Pear” salt and pepper shakers
2. Wedding gown fantasies, example: photo shopping the heads off the wedding gown models and replacing it with your own.
3. Soliciting wedding venders on Craigslist for “TF” (trade for).

So How Do I Know If I’m a Wedding Porn Addict?

Wedding Addiction Questionnaire: Ask yourself the following questions, and be completely honest with your answers:

• Do you wedding gown shop often, or find the frequency increasing?
• Do you frequent wedding sites/blogs, or bridal shows and events?
• Do you find yourself looking for wedding vendors even though you already chosen yours?
• Do you find yourself looking at wedding sites any time you get on-line, even if you didn’t intend to go there?
• Have you replaced all the bathroom reading material in your home with wedding propaganda?
• Do you own several pairs of panties with “Mrs. So and So” scrawled across the seat?
• Have you been to every bakery in town for cake tastings even though you already have your cake?
• Have you sent in an audition tape to every wedding reality TV show?
• Do you feel a need to constantly talk about your wedding in order to get attention?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be in the early stages of Wedding Porn Addiction. Please continue and answer these questions as well:

• Do you often call one or more of your wedding vendors at least once a day?
• Have you had multiple venue changes?
• Are you a regular customer at the local bridal shops?
• Have you secretly considered taking out a loan to pay for the wedding dress of your dreams?
• Have you gone into debt downloading all the different wedding apps on your phone?
• Have you tried to stop any of the behaviors in the first group of questions, and find that you can’t stop for any significant length of time?
• Have you hawked family heirlooms to pay for your wedding?
• Have you lied, cried, begged, pleaded and manipulated your fiancé, friends and family during the planning of your wedding, just to get your way?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are most likely addicted to Wedding Porn; it’s safe to say you have reached a point where you need outside help. Please consider hiring a wedding planner, this way you have someone on the outside that you can be accountable to, think of your wedding planner as your “Sponsor”; someone who can give you their unbiased opinion, someone who can keep you on the right track. A wedding planner will can help create boundaries for you, when you know how much you can spend it makes it easier to avoid financial pitfalls; the wedding planner will keep you focused and positive.

The good thing is there is hope for you! Check into wedding rehab everyday by visiting askdrbride.com!